During a recent trip to Big Bear I found happiness.
On my 2.5 hour drive back to LA I was on cloud nine and I had some time to ponder about why.
It was dark when I arrived so I had not yet seen the beauty that is Big Bear. When I went to bed that night I set an intention to naturally wake up for the sunrise, and it worked! I started my day with the most spectacular, awe-inspiring sunrise I had ever seen…
Followed by a two hour nap 😀
And then… I chopped wood! I held a chainsaw in the middle of a forest and cut through a tree that was once standing tall. What a rush! Later, that wood became our fire, it kept us warm, it allowed us to make s’mores, and was an aesthetic masterpiece.
The same day, our group went for a boat ride after the rain and right before the next downpour. We had the whole lake to ourselves. We took turns steering which allowed for each of us to take in the scenery in a different light. We laughed the whole time. There was a moment while I was steering that I looked at all my friends enjoying the ride in their own way. Everyone looked so happy and content. A rainbow appeared and it was perfect.
On the same day before the sun went down, my girlfriend and I decided to go for a walk and take some photos. We both enjoy this hobby a great deal and neither one of us will ever decline being the subject ;).
This little shoot ended with me running by the lake wearing nothing but Uggs. My God, was that invigorating.
We cooked dinner, and my best friend and I decided to put on dresses to have a dance party under the stars because what else does one do in Big Bear on a Sunday night!?
That night we had a rainstorm that lasted until the next afternoon. Rain is something that makes me feel very close to home in NY, and also makes me very happy because California really needs it.
This trip got me thinking about how happy I was there. I remember walking by the lake on the last day thinking how great I am. Something that I rarely feel in the comparative city of Los Angeles. I thought about all of my growth, my journey, and all the things I’ve accomplished. I felt so much love for myself. I felt so much acceptance.
I accepted that I am not the tidiest person. I accepted that I am horrible at time management. I accepted that I’m not a size 2. I accepted that I’m not in a relationship. I accepted that Soul Wellness Method is still growing because it was only born this year! I accepted that I am where I need to be right now.
Having this time in nature has been very healing. I forgot how much there is to be learned and unlearned from mother Nature.
I didn’t have my most beautiful clothes or jewelry with me, and I never wore make up once — some of the things that society makes us feel like we need to be accepted and loved. Yet, while allowing myself to just be, I felt so powerful. The love for myself that overcame me was accessed because I finally realized that I (my soul) already has everything it needs.
You don’t have to take a trip into the woods to access the love and happiness that already resides within you. Here are five ways to do so at home:
Make The Choice
Decide that you want to see things differently. Realize that the world in which you see and experience is a direct reflection of the viewpoint you choose to see it with. By choosing to see the world and all its’ love, your experience will start to change.
Wake Up and Avoid Your Phone
I’ve never met anyone who says “WOW I feel so amazing after being on Instagram”. We spend hours browsing through social media and the next thing we know we’re checking up on people we used to date leaving ourselves feeling sad, tired, and insecure.
Stop jumping into the thoughts and agendas of other people, brands, and companies. Social media and television are flooded with information and advertisements that are designed to make us believe we don’t have enough.
Emails and texts are nothing but a system of other peoples needs and agendas. Put yourself first and give yourself 30 minutes of “me time” in the morning. Observe the thoughts that come into your mind after a night of sleeping. Tune in, listen, and don’t let someone else interrupt them.
Remember All You’ve Done
Because we live in a culture that promotes lack and comparison, it’s easy to feel like we’re not good enough. We’re constantly jonesing for it. Whatever ‘it’ means to you. Take 10 minutes after you’ve made the choice (see step one) to write down all of the things you’ve done. Remember any hardship you’ve had, goals you’ve met, the thing you overcame when you thought you never would, and things you’re most proud of. Don’t forget that your journey is perfect for you.
Be Grateful For Your life and Your Circumstances
Gratitude is the key to turning things around. Since you’re not checking your phone first thing in the morning, lay in bed and think of five things you’re grateful for that day. The list doesn’t have to be poignant and grand. Think of the simple things — your dog, the delicious dinner you made the night before, the person you got that meeting with today. Watch any worry drift away and see how this habit begins to influence your day-to-day.
Take Care of Yourself
Stop missing that workout, take that class you’ve been wanting to, stop saying yes to things that you don’t want to, start eating more greens. Whatever that thing is that you’ve been avoiding that you know will make you really happy — do it. You know exactly what it is.
Keep the promises you make to yourself and build your self-love and self-trust. It will change your life.
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